It seems like #sheddingforthewedding and #slimmingdownforthegown have become huge trends lately and the marketing craze of the pre-wedding slim down has really started getting on my nerves. There is so much emphasis on being “skinny” for your wedding and a lot of pressure for your wedding day to be the best day of your life. The pressure can drive you crazy. I think self-love and self-care are important everyday, and on a day you are marrying the love of you life, you should focus on feeling good and celebrating that love. Planning a wedding is stressful for so many reasons already, so instead of focusing on how your body looks, try to focus on how you feel. I know for me that means putting just as much effort into taking care of my mind as I do my body. I know how overwhelming it can be but here are some tips and practices I’ve been using since getting engaged, and with my wedding coming up soon, I’m focusing on them now more than ever.
1. Breathing Practice:
Find a breathing practice that works for you. Here’s what I’ve found works for me: I breathe in through my nose using my diaphragm and hold my breath for 3 seconds at the top. Then, I exhale through the nose and hold for 3 seconds once I have released all the air. I try to do 25 breaths before bed and another 25 when I first wake up in the morning. I can’t tell you how much of a difference this has made.
2. Adaptogenic Herbs from Sun Potion:
What I love about adaptogenic herbs is that they adapt to your body and your own personal needs. I have been putting them in my smoothies and or hot tonics and I’m absolutely hooked. For those of you who don’t know, adaptogens are natural substances that help your body through natural processes, like digestion and regulating your stress levels. I take Tocos, which is a great source of Vitamin E and helps promote healthy skin and muscle function. Rhodiola is great for mental clarity and focus as well as supporting your immune system and stamina. Another great one is Cordyceps,which promotes mental power, athletic endurance, muscle tone, and sexual energy. Ever since I’ve started taking these I have noticed a huge difference in my mood and attitude, so I’m totally sold on my high vibe potions.
Do this any way you want, from the sauna (I love infrared) or steam room to working out or just getting some vitamin D in by hanging out in the sunshine. Whatever way you want to accomplish a sweat, go for it, just make sure you do it. Releasing toxins from the body is very important because you don’t want crap building up in your body over time to lead to diseases. I work out because I love it and it makes me feel good. I’m staying active because that’s my lifestyle. I’m not making drastic changes to accomplish some ridiculous goal that has been idealized by our body-obsessed society. Don’t go crazy with a new routine, if you’re looking to get in better shape for your wedding that’s great! But find a regimen that works for you and that keeps you sane.
4. Bath Time:
Bath time is my zen moment and my happy place! I love baths so much and having one always leaves me in a relaxed state. I love that it’s a moment in my busy week that I have all to myself. I put all sorts of things in my bath to help me relax. I love Dr. Singha’s Mustard Bath which gently opens pores and assists in the elimination of impurities, calming epsom salts, floral oil blends, and lots of dried flowers. And don’t forget your mask!
I have been seeing Tracy Piper from the Piper Internal Wellness Center on and off for 6 years for what we call “internal fitness.” For me, colonics are not a short term solution for a slim tummy but rather a more mental experience. As women, we hold so much in our gut, holding on to trauma, grief, stress and other things that generally leave you feeling bogged down. Tracy’s techniques are strong and they work for me. I love getting colonics during this time because I truly feel that I’m doing the emotional work to prepare myself for my next life chapter and I’m preparing my soul to properly give and receive love in its optimal state.
6. Body Talk:
I recently had a life changing session with Tammy Kohlschmidt, who does this thing called “body talk” using tap therapy. All I know is that she took me back to my seven-year old self and got rid of some emotional baggage I had been unknowingly holding on to for years. I thought she was really powerful and I highly recommend seeing her for a session.
These are just a few things that have worked for me, but I think the most important thing to keep in mind is to just enjoy this exciting time with your almost husband or wife and remember not to sweat the small stuff.